Rosh Hashanah

How To Celebrate Rosh Hashanah Alone

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During a recent AMA (Ask Me Anything), I received a very heart-felt question.

“How can we make it feel like the High Holy days if we have to be alone during a quarantine?”

Sometimes it is nice to be alone…… have some privacy and to use our time in any way we see fit.  During these last few difficult months we have all faced, many people have had to live through incredible loneliness.  

Now, a new challenge is presenting itself. 

In less than a month, the high holidays will be upon us.

There is no doubt that being alone during a holiday is difficult.  How can one feel joyous about beginning the new year in required isolation or without family due to travel restrictions to protect everyone’s health?

There was a beautiful story by Rabbi YY Jacobson that went around this year before Passover, when many were concerned about spending the Passover Seder alone.  Each year, the Lubavitcher Rebbe and his wife had their Passover seder privately, just the two of them.  The year of the Rebbetzin’s passing, the Rebbe had the seder by himself. He received an invitation from a local family to join their seder.  He had ensured that tens of thousands of Jews had Passover seders at Chabad Houses all over the world.  Yet, for his own reasons, he had the seder that year by himself.  

Home of Rebbetzin Chaya Mushka and the Lubavitcher Rebbe Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson
in Crown Heights, Brooklyn, New York

“Maase Avot Siman l’Banim”

“The actions of our fathers are a sign (a lesson) for the children.”  One can’t help but think that the Rebbe’s actions showed us something special and gave strength to those who would need it.  If someone finds themselves in the difficult situation of being alone for a holiday, not only wil they get through it, but it can be a very meaningful and complete holiday nonetheless. 

Everyone knows that the Passover seder is a participatory event.  We read the Haggadah aloud together and we ask and answer the Four Questions.  But interestingly, the Talmud teaches that if one is by himself at the seder, he asks and answers the questions himself.  If the Talmud is telling us this, it means that even according to Jewish law, one can have a complete seder even if he finds himself alone.

With this knowledge, how can we apply it to the upcoming High Holidays? 

What can one do to have a complete holiday?  Here are some ideas and feel free to leave other helpful ideas in the comments.

1. 30 days before the holiday, we learn about it.

It is customary to re-learn about an upcoming holiday.  This insures that we do everything necessary for the holiday, inspires us and gets us in a festive mood.

2. Biur Tefillah

Prior to the onset of the holiday, learn the deeper meaning of the prayers (in whichever language you are comfortable).  Listening to recordings of the prayers and their special tunes helps too!

3. It’s All Commentary

Study the commentaries of the Torah and Haftorah portions of the holiday.  Everything is available nowdays online.  These can be printed out for convenience to be read on the holiday itself.

4. Get a Great Guide

Print an in-depth online holiday guide and commit to doing as much as you can. 

5. Get the Cameras Rolling……

…….the video camera, that is.  Before the holiday begins, have a video call with family or friends.  Sing the holiday songs together and share something you learned during your pre-holiday studying.  Follow it up with a video call after the holiday too. 

6. Your Order Will Be Right Up!

Order a special book online to enjoy during the holidays.  

7.  The Way to One’s Heart is through the Stomach

Prepare or buy some of your favorite holiday foods.  Although it’s not the way you anticipated spending your holiday, it can still be filled with things that bring you joy. Eating a good meal and staying hydrated will give you the much needed nutrients to feel good, sleep well and help you stay positive.

8. Get In Touch with Nature

If possible, try to go for a walk outdoors during the holiday.  If this isn’t possible, sit by an open window to get some fresh air, feel the sun shining and take in the sounds from outside.  

9. ‘Head’-ing in the Right Direction

Although Rosh Hashanah begins the new year, the name of the holiday itself holds within it a great teaching.  “Rosh” in Hebrew means head.  And, just as the head holds within it the life force and the power to control the entire body, the special holiday of Rosh Hashanah holds within it the potential to affect the entire year.  And what we do with that potential depends on us.  More specifically, it depends on our thoughts and our actions.

Being on our own during a holiday can be challenging and difficult. 

But we can make the most of this time, by recognizing the opportunity to focus on ourselves during this holiday of great introspection.  We can endeavor to make a gameplan for the year ahead.  And it may help to remember that this year’s holiday(s) is just one out of hopefully many more years to come.  With a little planning, you’ll be surprised how the two days will pass when filled with good things to do.  

We must also keep in mind one of the important highlights of the day. 

We are once again crowning God as the King of the world.  The fact that we have this incredible potential reminds us of our unbreakable bond we have with God.  After all, as Chassidus teaches, each and every one of us has an actual part of Godliness within us.  This connection is so strong and is an essential part of who we are. And hence, we are never truly alone.  Contemplating this important concept can bring great comfort, especially when we feel on our own.

Even with challenges, it can still be a meaningful holiday.  I wish each of you a healthy, happy New Year, l’Shanah Tova uMetuka.  We are connected to each other, and to the the many before us, through our special prayers, beautiful songs and everlasting teachings.

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